Race stumps gender

Would you rather befriend someone because they have the same race as you or the same gender?
Here's a harder question: Would you rather vote for someone because they have the same race as you or the same gender?
A good friend was telling me the other day that an older male friend, who is married with two daughters, was stressing the importance that men should realize how they don't understand women's struggles. That, I agree with completely, although I feel it is a lost cause (I'll explain why later).
Women walk around and are always judged by their physical appearance and manners- by men and women. Sure, some men judge other men by their looks, but not in the same way that women are judged. Men would think "she's too fat" or "she has a huge rack" while they'd look at a man and think "he looks rich" or "he looks like a hick."
Complete difference.
So my problem with this is that a majority of women have bought into that and also judge other women by their clothes, make-up, hair style or even their (or lack thereof) accessories.
Women have been spoon-fed this bullshit that women who look and act a certain way are one thing and women who look and act a different way are another thing. One is good, one is bad. But no matter what, it diversifies us. It splits us. It harms us. And as a group, women aren't unified- they're broken. Therefore, as a group, we are weak. And we can not overcome sexism by being so vulnerable that we prey upon each other, while we have to watch our backs because men are preying upon us as well.
Look at the black community. There are black churches, stereotypical black food, black heroes, black cities ... and now they have Barack Obama- a potential black president.
As for the women? We don't have churches, food, heroes, cities and we sure as hell don't have a potential woman president anymore. For women to gain respect as a group, and therefore unify and strengthen itself, the power, confidence and strength must come from the inside. We must create a culture to preserve it and support it. So in order to get respect, we must first respect other women.
We can't continue to classify each other as "whore" or "bitch" or even "housewife" because those words were put there, by men, to cut us down. And now we've grabbed those sharp words and we're cutting ourselves down with them. We can't expect to gain social status if we're feeding into the male bullshit of what a woman "should be like."
Yes, I said we need to gain social status. A lot of it to be close to where men are ranked.
For those of you who are appalled and perhaps dumbfounded at that comment, let me help you out from under the rock you've been living under and let me explain that we lost the chance of having a woman president for a multitude of reasons, but a main reason is that women did not stick together. Most feminist organizations actually supported Barack, if you could believe that.
Another point to ponder is the fact that Barack is reaching to everyone of his race- he's reaching outside of political lines. Armstrong Williams, a black conservative talkshow host, said that he's willing to vote for Barack in November, which would be the first time he'd ever vote for a Democrat to be president. He will vote for him because they're both black.
If Obama has that type of power, imagine what women could have if we pulled ourselves together. Women make up the majority of the world's population, yet we are treated and we feel as though we're a minority. That's what type of mind trick men have played on us.
Women didn't come together to vote for a woman president because race stumps gender. People of race are more likely to stick together than are people of the same gender. Obviously, the country is more sexist than racist.
Ladies: no matter how many history books or feminist classes men take, they'll never understand the depreciation that women feel on a daily basis, just like how we'll never understand what it was like to be a woman 100 years ago, when it was much more unequal. We can't depend on anyone but ourselves to hoist ourselves up through the social ladder and to eventually shatter the glass ceiling.
I find it disgraceful that women put other women down. Women stab women in the backs. Women won't vote for a woman to be president. End your selfish ignorance, step out of your box and look at the big picture: we must promote women's rights.
Barack will be president because he was able to unify his race (plus many other non-black people) unlike other black politicians before him. But women are waiting for a woman who's able to do the same for our gender. Where's our hero?
Hopefully, one day, our granddaughters won't know the term "glass ceiling." They'll shockingly read in history books how it was the norm for men to be U.S. president or CEOs.
But that'll only happen if we make it happen.
The change starts with us.
Now.